“You can be anything you want in life, as long as you know what you are.
This is a personal saying of mine that I have had since as long as I can remember.
”You can be anything you want in life, so long as you know what you are.”
What do I mean by this?
A couple different things.
1.) Clarity! You need clarity for what your desires are. Who are you? What makes you tick? Are you sure? Most of us have spent a lifetime lying to ourselves about what we are or what we deserve.
I know, I personally have always liked nice things. Pretty things. Comfty things. Quality things.
I haven't expensive taste.
I feel like in some ways we grew in world where we were made to feel bad about that...almost like the Great Depression was lingering infecting our own world with it's cloud.
But, I don't like clouds and I don't like being depressed. It's okay to desire things that you love.
I think the difference is YOU loving it and make sure you don't want something that SOMEONE ELSE would love..because then you're not REALLY doing it for you SELF. You're doing it, to produce and image..which is NOT your SELF....it's your ego self.
But, that being said, clarity about who you are, what you like and what you desire is key!
2.) If you want to improve something about yourself, the first thing you need to do is BE HONEST ABOUT YOURSELF.
You need to totally accept who you are in the now and become aware of it.
For example. I'm not organized, I'm very messy and I hate cleaning. Like, loathe it. It feels like the biggest waste of life ever.
But in a way, I LIKE that about myself.
It's a part of my character.
It's who I am.
And it's why I come up with tongue in cheek theories, like that I think house cleaning should be a social service because I believe nobody should have to be responsible for cleaning anything unless they are getting paid to do it...but we'll get back to this later.
Now, maybe my character is sort of a victim of her circumstances sometimes. With my life as the aftermath of my own tornado...that also drives my creavity...
Basically, what I know is that I'm a tornado and I can make some really cool things, but I leave a gigantic mess in my wake and I do not want to clean it up and by not cleaning it up I get stressed out and aggitated.
SO, there's my awareness.
What do I do? How do I solve this?
How do I improve myself, to be someone who is less messy while also minimizing the time spent cleaning?
I've established rule #1.
Now, how I TACKLE this clarity, is up for discussion.
Maybe I start making a cleaning schedule.
Maybe I throw everything away.
Maybe I figure out how to hire someone who LOVES cleaning and pay them a ton of money for doing so, so that I don't feel bad about them cleaning up after me.
I don't know!
But, the point is, I don't want to be a messy person, disorganized spaz of a person who lives amongst chaos and wastes energy cleaning.
I want to be a messy, disorganized spaz who unleashes her creativity and then, BING, everything is back to normal!
3.) You can be anything you want in life, as long as you know what you are means...
Don't act all earthy, crunchy, tree hugger, if you drive around in a gas guzzling SUV unless you're perfectly fine admitting you're a hypocrite. I'm perfectly fine with that, as long as you know!
If you want to be a bitch; be a bitch! Just as long as you know.
If you want to be stubborn; be stubborn! As long as you know.
But it's when you want to be a certain something; but then SAY you are a certain something else...that's when conflict has room to enter.
It's like, WRUUURT. Something doesn't fit. There's a disconnect here...
Does that make sense?
So if you are in a grumpy mood, just be like, "Yo! I'm in a grumpy mood, don't talk to me, because I'm not going to be very nice."
Instead of biting people's heads off, like the man at the post office the other day who didn't like the way the clerk told him to take out his credit card and reinsert it in the chip reader.